Marriage Obsession

Why is it that women get the bad reputation for being obessessed with marriage? I've had plenty of men who just couldn't let the topic drop. Of course, for them it was always the need to tell me how much they never wanted to do it!

I dated a muscian for a year. We had so much fun together. But our dates could never really get fun until he got the marriage speech off his chest. No joke...sometime within the first half hour of each date, he'd casually bring up the fact that he never wanted to get married into the conversation. I'd reply that if he didn't want to do it, he probably shouldn't. And then he'd relax and we would have fun.

He was totally obsessesed with how much he didn't want to be tied down, and he couldn't see that I wasn't asking him to. In fact, had I seriously thought about it, I wouldn't have wanted to marry him...he was a drummer. It would have been a rough life for me.

But he couldn't let it drop. One night I was chatting with the guitarist in his band as they were breaking down. I actually remember that we were discussing the guy's car trunk and how many instruments he could fit in it. I remember this because my guy saw us talking and yelled "Is she telling you how much she wants to marry me?" Neither the guitarist nor I even knew what to say to that.

Therefore it didn't surprise me that the last time I ever saw him was the night he told me that if (not that he ever would), but if he ever got married, I was at the top of the list.

Men.

Crazy Date Etiquette: Story 1

Am I crazy, or is it to much to ask for someone to at least put real pants on for a date?

Many years ago (before Internet dating), I dated through the newspaper personals. I met a guy who seemed very interesting...at least on the phone. He was a photographer, had arty friends, seemed funny. We agreed to meet.

I should have known when he picked a college pick-up bar that something was amiss (he was in his 30s).

He wasn't there when I showed up. I waited, and then called to see where he was. His response was "Oh, you showed up?" Why didn't I run away? Fifteen minutes later, a very grungy guy in SWEATPANTS walked through the door. I momentarily ignored the fact that he didn't even resemble his description of himself because he was wearing SWEATPANTS.

However, I had just come from the gym and was starving, so I suggested we get that dinner. He had already eaten, and didn't have his wallet with him anyway, so we ended up at a pizza place.

Short story: he lived at home with his mom, was a self-proclaimed photographer (which I learned meant he got stoned all day long), and wanted to be my boyfriend. ugh. I respectfully said no. He was very confused as to why I wouldn't want to date him. Hello...he was wearing SWEATPANTS!

I'm very curious about date attire...what's the most interesting thing someone has worn on a date with you?