Home Remodeling...with a Spouse

My husband and I passed a huge test...we did a home remodeling project together and didn't have a single fight.

I didn't think anything of this until I was telling a group of friends about the project and they asked if "we were still married." I'm beginning to think we're weird. We never seem to fight, especially in situations where most people do.

Then I think, so what if we're weird. We never fight. We talk, we disagree about stuff, we communicate. But we don't fight. And it's great. Especially when we can remodel our house without incident.

By the way, the new living room is GORGEOUS!

Crush of the Week: Santana Moss

I feel in love the other day. I was at the opening ceremony for the International Childrens' Festival and I met Washington Redskin Sanatana Moss.

I'm not much of a football fan, but I knew the name. If you follow football at all, you know the name. Meeting him at an arts event, however, is not what I would have expected.

But it turns out that he is a huge supporter of the arts, especially programs for children. In fact, he almost went to art school. How cool is that? As the guest of honor, he spoke about the influence the arts had on his life, and the impact it made on who he is today. How could I not fall in love?

So, football player and artist Santana Moss is my crush of the week.

The Feeling of Love

Movies and books really mess us up in many ways. In terms of romance, they give us ridiculous notions of what love is supposed to feel like. They make us believe that love is about the sick pit in your stomach, the crazy feeling of emotions out of control, a heightened sense that fireworks must be flying at all times.

No wonder people are so often disappointed with the reality.

I experienced many of those feelings in my dating life, yet it was never with Mr. Right. Then I fell in love. And guess what? I didn't really feel any of those things. What I felt was a complete and total sense of calm contentment. From our first date, everything felt easy. Everything was easy!

This feeling is so much better than the fantasy. I'm so glad I've experienced real love...in fact, I'm grinning stupidly just thinking about it. So, maybe there is a little bit of the fireworks thing going on here. But mostly it's just a complete sense of "right."

The Frog Prince Part 1

In my opinion, the Muppets rule! I love Kermie and friends. Actually, Animal is my favorite, but he didn't star in the Frog Prince movie...

Finding Mr. Prince

I want to send out a word of encouragement to all the single women out there:
Your prince is waiting for you, and he is so wonderful!

How do I know this? After 20+ years of dating Mr. Frog (aka, the totally wrong guy), I wised up and decided I wanted a decent, caring, nice man in my life. And I found him.

At the age of 40, I found my prince.

He came as a surprise to me. At the time I met him, I was actually dating my last frog. I didn't think the guy was a frog, but he was. More on him in another post. Here's what happened:

I wrote a book about dating the wrong guys. Then I started publicizing it. Setting up a MySpace profile was one of the many things I did. (I had no idea people used MySpace for dating!) Anyway, one day, I got a funny and clever message from a guy in a kilt. It was friendly...not a pick up at all. We started writing, and made each other laugh. We met. I thought he'd make a good friend. He thought I'd be a good more-than-friend.

Then he did what no other guy had ever done—he treated me like a princess. He called when he said he'd call. He made arrangements to see me at the end of each date. He told me I was wonderful. And he kept showing up. It was a revelation. He treated me with respect, and showed how much he appreciated me.

So ladies (and gentlemen), it can happen. It will happen if you are really open to having a good person in your life. I highly recommend it.

Welcome

Thanks for visiting Reformed Frog Kissers. I hope you'll find this blog as much fun to read as I find it to write.

Why am doing this? Well, a few years ago, I started compiling all of my dating war stories. Before I knew it, I had a book (Confessions of a Frog Kisser). While I was writing the book, I kept a blog about the process, with the occasional dating story thrown in for good measure (SusanRose.net). Once the book was finished, I kind of stopped posting to my blog. Yet, the dating stories are still there, along with stories about kicking the frog habit once and for all, and finding my prince.

So here I am with a new blog space, dedicated to the dating life. I'll share my own stories, along with stories from my dear friends who are still out there.

Have fun and feel free to share any time!