My husband has left me again. He'll be back, but I don't know when. It doesn't really matter, because he'll leave again tomorrow before dawn.
It's hunting season in Northern Virginia.
My man has put up the tree stands, pulled out the decoy doe, and purchased some new camo. It's unlikely I'll spend much time with him over the next few weeks. At least not until he's had some success out there in the field.
So what is my confession? It's that I don't really mind all that much. As much as I love our morning coffee ritual and snuggling on the couch in the evening, I really enjoy being alone sometimes. So happy hunting season!
Showing posts with label dating. Show all posts
Showing posts with label dating. Show all posts
Tuesday, September 9, 2008
Sunday, August 17, 2008
How to Get a Date Online
A good friend of mine has decided to venture into the online dating world, and asked for some advice on what to say in her profile. We went to the source...my husband, who just so happens to be a guy. I figured a guy would know what a guy wants.
Here's what he said: Post a picture where you look like you're having fun, be positive, talk about the things you like to do.
Then he said something very interesting: he said the guys want to like you. They are looking for reasons to like you. So give it to them. Men are simple. They just want to know they're going to have a good time if they go out with you.
So show your fun side!
Here's what he said: Post a picture where you look like you're having fun, be positive, talk about the things you like to do.
Then he said something very interesting: he said the guys want to like you. They are looking for reasons to like you. So give it to them. Men are simple. They just want to know they're going to have a good time if they go out with you.
So show your fun side!
Friday, August 15, 2008
Tuesday, August 12, 2008
What's in a Name
I once had a date with a guy who dated Suzanne Vega. Know how I know that? Because he made darn well sure it came up in our conversation.
I remember him kind of steering the conversation toward this very exciting announcement, and then looking at my face carefully for the response. Apparently, he didn't see the proper amount of awe there, and he was might disappointed. In fact, he was bummed that I'd dated a somewhat famous musician too (not nearly as well-known as her, but his band has a loyal and large following).
It came as little surprise that he didn't call me for a second date.
However, what is really funny about this is that the next day I went hiking with a friend who was also doing a lot of Internet dating at the time. I was telling her about my date and she just started laughing. She'd gone out with the guy too! And he'd also found a way to tell her about Suzanne. She didn't have a second date with him either. Maybe nobody could measure up.
I remember him kind of steering the conversation toward this very exciting announcement, and then looking at my face carefully for the response. Apparently, he didn't see the proper amount of awe there, and he was might disappointed. In fact, he was bummed that I'd dated a somewhat famous musician too (not nearly as well-known as her, but his band has a loyal and large following).
It came as little surprise that he didn't call me for a second date.
However, what is really funny about this is that the next day I went hiking with a friend who was also doing a lot of Internet dating at the time. I was telling her about my date and she just started laughing. She'd gone out with the guy too! And he'd also found a way to tell her about Suzanne. She didn't have a second date with him either. Maybe nobody could measure up.
Saturday, August 9, 2008
Marriage Obsession
Why is it that women get the bad reputation for being obessessed with marriage? I've had plenty of men who just couldn't let the topic drop. Of course, for them it was always the need to tell me how much they never wanted to do it!
I dated a muscian for a year. We had so much fun together. But our dates could never really get fun until he got the marriage speech off his chest. No joke...sometime within the first half hour of each date, he'd casually bring up the fact that he never wanted to get married into the conversation. I'd reply that if he didn't want to do it, he probably shouldn't. And then he'd relax and we would have fun.
He was totally obsessesed with how much he didn't want to be tied down, and he couldn't see that I wasn't asking him to. In fact, had I seriously thought about it, I wouldn't have wanted to marry him...he was a drummer. It would have been a rough life for me.
But he couldn't let it drop. One night I was chatting with the guitarist in his band as they were breaking down. I actually remember that we were discussing the guy's car trunk and how many instruments he could fit in it. I remember this because my guy saw us talking and yelled "Is she telling you how much she wants to marry me?" Neither the guitarist nor I even knew what to say to that.
Therefore it didn't surprise me that the last time I ever saw him was the night he told me that if (not that he ever would), but if he ever got married, I was at the top of the list.
Men.
I dated a muscian for a year. We had so much fun together. But our dates could never really get fun until he got the marriage speech off his chest. No joke...sometime within the first half hour of each date, he'd casually bring up the fact that he never wanted to get married into the conversation. I'd reply that if he didn't want to do it, he probably shouldn't. And then he'd relax and we would have fun.
He was totally obsessesed with how much he didn't want to be tied down, and he couldn't see that I wasn't asking him to. In fact, had I seriously thought about it, I wouldn't have wanted to marry him...he was a drummer. It would have been a rough life for me.
But he couldn't let it drop. One night I was chatting with the guitarist in his band as they were breaking down. I actually remember that we were discussing the guy's car trunk and how many instruments he could fit in it. I remember this because my guy saw us talking and yelled "Is she telling you how much she wants to marry me?" Neither the guitarist nor I even knew what to say to that.
Therefore it didn't surprise me that the last time I ever saw him was the night he told me that if (not that he ever would), but if he ever got married, I was at the top of the list.
Men.
Saturday, August 2, 2008
The Frog Prince Part 1
In my opinion, the Muppets rule! I love Kermie and friends. Actually, Animal is my favorite, but he didn't star in the Frog Prince movie...
Friday, August 1, 2008
What's the Best On-Line Dating Site?
I am a big fan of Internet dating. Perhaps that's because I met my husband on MySpace. It certainly isn't because I had much luck with some of the popular Internet dating sites (although, I'm sure that has more to do with me and my habit of being attracted to the wrong guy than with the services those sites offer).
I've known people who have met their spouses on Match.com, E-Harmony, and MySpace. I'm wonder what your preference is, and if you have any good stories. How long did it take to meet the right person?
Thursday, July 31, 2008
What is a Date?
I was searching around for interesting dating statistics, and landed on one of my favorite sites...wikipedia. Here's how they define dating:
How do you define dating?
Dating is any social activity performed as a pair or even a group with the aim of each assessing the other's suitability as their partner in an intimate relationship or as a spouse. The word refers to the act of agreeing on a time and "date" when a pair can meet and engage in some social activity.
How do you define dating?
Tuesday, July 29, 2008
Crazy Date Etiquette: Story 1
Am I crazy, or is it to much to ask for someone to at least put real pants on for a date?
Many years ago (before Internet dating), I dated through the newspaper personals. I met a guy who seemed very interesting...at least on the phone. He was a photographer, had arty friends, seemed funny. We agreed to meet.
I should have known when he picked a college pick-up bar that something was amiss (he was in his 30s).
He wasn't there when I showed up. I waited, and then called to see where he was. His response was "Oh, you showed up?" Why didn't I run away? Fifteen minutes later, a very grungy guy in SWEATPANTS walked through the door. I momentarily ignored the fact that he didn't even resemble his description of himself because he was wearing SWEATPANTS.
However, I had just come from the gym and was starving, so I suggested we get that dinner. He had already eaten, and didn't have his wallet with him anyway, so we ended up at a pizza place.
Short story: he lived at home with his mom, was a self-proclaimed photographer (which I learned meant he got stoned all day long), and wanted to be my boyfriend. ugh. I respectfully said no. He was very confused as to why I wouldn't want to date him. Hello...he was wearing SWEATPANTS!
I'm very curious about date attire...what's the most interesting thing someone has worn on a date with you?
Many years ago (before Internet dating), I dated through the newspaper personals. I met a guy who seemed very interesting...at least on the phone. He was a photographer, had arty friends, seemed funny. We agreed to meet.
I should have known when he picked a college pick-up bar that something was amiss (he was in his 30s).
He wasn't there when I showed up. I waited, and then called to see where he was. His response was "Oh, you showed up?" Why didn't I run away? Fifteen minutes later, a very grungy guy in SWEATPANTS walked through the door. I momentarily ignored the fact that he didn't even resemble his description of himself because he was wearing SWEATPANTS.
However, I had just come from the gym and was starving, so I suggested we get that dinner. He had already eaten, and didn't have his wallet with him anyway, so we ended up at a pizza place.
Short story: he lived at home with his mom, was a self-proclaimed photographer (which I learned meant he got stoned all day long), and wanted to be my boyfriend. ugh. I respectfully said no. He was very confused as to why I wouldn't want to date him. Hello...he was wearing SWEATPANTS!
I'm very curious about date attire...what's the most interesting thing someone has worn on a date with you?
Monday, July 28, 2008
Finding Mr. Prince
I want to send out a word of encouragement to all the single women out there:
Your prince is waiting for you, and he is so wonderful!
How do I know this? After 20+ years of dating Mr. Frog (aka, the totally wrong guy), I wised up and decided I wanted a decent, caring, nice man in my life. And I found him.
At the age of 40, I found my prince.
He came as a surprise to me. At the time I met him, I was actually dating my last frog. I didn't think the guy was a frog, but he was. More on him in another post. Here's what happened:
I wrote a book about dating the wrong guys. Then I started publicizing it. Setting up a MySpace profile was one of the many things I did. (I had no idea people used MySpace for dating!) Anyway, one day, I got a funny and clever message from a guy in a kilt. It was friendly...not a pick up at all. We started writing, and made each other laugh. We met. I thought he'd make a good friend. He thought I'd be a good more-than-friend.
Then he did what no other guy had ever done—he treated me like a princess. He called when he said he'd call. He made arrangements to see me at the end of each date. He told me I was wonderful. And he kept showing up. It was a revelation. He treated me with respect, and showed how much he appreciated me.
So ladies (and gentlemen), it can happen. It will happen if you are really open to having a good person in your life. I highly recommend it.
Your prince is waiting for you, and he is so wonderful!
How do I know this? After 20+ years of dating Mr. Frog (aka, the totally wrong guy), I wised up and decided I wanted a decent, caring, nice man in my life. And I found him.
At the age of 40, I found my prince.
He came as a surprise to me. At the time I met him, I was actually dating my last frog. I didn't think the guy was a frog, but he was. More on him in another post. Here's what happened:
I wrote a book about dating the wrong guys. Then I started publicizing it. Setting up a MySpace profile was one of the many things I did. (I had no idea people used MySpace for dating!) Anyway, one day, I got a funny and clever message from a guy in a kilt. It was friendly...not a pick up at all. We started writing, and made each other laugh. We met. I thought he'd make a good friend. He thought I'd be a good more-than-friend.
Then he did what no other guy had ever done—he treated me like a princess. He called when he said he'd call. He made arrangements to see me at the end of each date. He told me I was wonderful. And he kept showing up. It was a revelation. He treated me with respect, and showed how much he appreciated me.
So ladies (and gentlemen), it can happen. It will happen if you are really open to having a good person in your life. I highly recommend it.
Sunday, July 27, 2008
No He Didn't!
I thought I'd experienced some pretty rude behavior on my dating expeditions, but the other day I heard a story that took the cake.
A friend has been doing the internet dating thing (I won't mention which service she is using). She's attractive, early 40's, mom. She's no model, but she looks great...for a 40ish year old.
So, she was e-flirting with a guy, and they decided to meet. She got to the destination early and ordered a glass of wine. A little while later, her guy walked in. He took a look at her, and she smiled. She walked over to her and said "Are you X?" When she said yes, he replied "I don't date liars" and walked out of the bar.
What the $%(?
She was completely blown away. She's also feisty enough to call him later that night and demand to know why he'd been so rude. He claimed she looked nothing like her profile picture (not true), and if she'd lie about that, what else would she lie about. She told him what she thought of that, and of him.
I never had someone walk out the door on me. I can't imagine. I hope he was the exception and not the norm. Would it have killed him to hang out and have a drink? Has anyone else had this experience, and if so, what did you do about it?
A friend has been doing the internet dating thing (I won't mention which service she is using). She's attractive, early 40's, mom. She's no model, but she looks great...for a 40ish year old.
So, she was e-flirting with a guy, and they decided to meet. She got to the destination early and ordered a glass of wine. A little while later, her guy walked in. He took a look at her, and she smiled. She walked over to her and said "Are you X?" When she said yes, he replied "I don't date liars" and walked out of the bar.
What the $%(?
She was completely blown away. She's also feisty enough to call him later that night and demand to know why he'd been so rude. He claimed she looked nothing like her profile picture (not true), and if she'd lie about that, what else would she lie about. She told him what she thought of that, and of him.
I never had someone walk out the door on me. I can't imagine. I hope he was the exception and not the norm. Would it have killed him to hang out and have a drink? Has anyone else had this experience, and if so, what did you do about it?
Saturday, July 26, 2008
Welcome
Thanks for visiting Reformed Frog Kissers. I hope you'll find this blog as much fun to read as I find it to write.
Why am doing this? Well, a few years ago, I started compiling all of my dating war stories. Before I knew it, I had a book (Confessions of a Frog Kisser). While I was writing the book, I kept a blog about the process, with the occasional dating story thrown in for good measure (SusanRose.net). Once the book was finished, I kind of stopped posting to my blog. Yet, the dating stories are still there, along with stories about kicking the frog habit once and for all, and finding my prince.
So here I am with a new blog space, dedicated to the dating life. I'll share my own stories, along with stories from my dear friends who are still out there.
Have fun and feel free to share any time!
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